Strong Relationships and Addiction Recovery

Relationships and Addiction Recovery
April 23, 2016 at 4:11 pm

Strong Relationships and Addiction Recovery

Drugs and addiction can cause a lot of problems in the relationships and the social life of the addict. As a loved one, it is our duty to stand with them during this crisis of theirs and support them with all our heart. This support alone can take them through the long road of recovery.

“Remember that life is full of ups and downs. Without the downs, the ups would feel nothing. “

Make sure that either of you impose a blame on anyone as the cause of addiction. Feeling guilty about it will also not help in any way. Know that the addictive person fell into the trap of drugs only because he wanted to try it out and it has nothing to do with your relationship.

Some struggles are worth fighting for. If you feel that you and your loved one are meant to be, then nothing can come as an obstacle in the way between you both.

How do you talk about it?

A study suggests that the sooner you seek help for addiction, the sooner the recovery will be. This can only be analyzed by the friends and family who are in close touch with the person. There are a lot of symptoms to look out for in your loved one which will help you spot out if he/she is really addicted.

Once you are sure about their addiction, talk to them about it. Make sure that you let them know how much you love them and state clear the point that nothing has changed your love for them. Their first reaction may be to deny it completely or behave in an  aggressive manner. In this case never push the talks into an argument. Deal it with ease and always maintain composure.

How can you help your loved one?

During the recovery phase, loneliness will creep into the person and there may be times when they feel very low. We must make sure that we are available to them day in and day out. We must make them feel worthy.

“Where there is hope, there is faith. Where there is faith, miracles happen. “

Trust and belief in your loved one can make real wonders in a strong relationship. Trust them to your fullest extent and value your relationship. Spend more quality time with each other every day.

Find out support groups or therapies that your partner is comfortable with. Encourage them that they can make it and succeed in the same. Family and relationships are a great pillar and support to lean onto at these times of crisis.

Once your loved one is into the recovery phase there is always a possibility of relapse. Sometimes the cravings can also be hard to bear. You must be there at these times making them feel more comfortable. Loved ones can provide mental, physical as well as emotional support for the patients under recovery.

Take things slow in the relationship front. Don’t rush into things or make promises out of the blue. It may be very tempting to help them out in every possible way. But you have to build up some boundaries and stay with it. These boundaries must not make the other person feel isolated too.

Healthy relationships means honesty and trust from both the sides. Be honest but never say things that might hurt the other person. Just remember,

“Just before the sunrise, there is a dark night, “

What to expect during this phase?

Recovery is a long road towards a positive future. Sometimes this road may be too bumpy to travel. This bumpy road is not only for the purpose of the recovering addict but also for the loved ones. Always remember that the person under recovery is very vulnerable. There may be a lot of expectations about relationship which might go unfulfilled during this period. Take this as a fact but never hold grudges for your partner.

If you feel that you are past your level and can no longer hold to the person you loved, then let go of it and talk about the same to your partner. Sometimes there is a pressure of balancing both the recovery and the relationship for the person under recovery. If he/she feels it as an extra burden, it is always better to let go and concentrate on one thing at a time. 

But if you feel deep down in your heart that this relationship is always meant to be, then there is no reason to let go of anything. Your strong relationship itself will find a way to stick to your loved one, no matter what.

“Don’t give up on the people you love. Your patience and faithfulness may be exactly what they need to make a complete turnaround. “

Trust and faith takes you a long way in life. When you feel like the whole world is about to topple, think about the happy moments that you both shared together. Remember how much they mean to you and how much they made you happy. Everything becomes bearable then and you get a new energy to face this world.

“The past should be left in the past because it can destroy your future. Live your life for what tomorrow has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away. “

Communicate with the person under recovery and make them feel trusted. Making them feel worthy about life can make miracles happen. Support can be provided by anyone, be it friends, co-workers and so on. But it takes a special person to make them feel valuable and that person can be you. Patience is a key which can open even rusty and old doors. Inculcate patience in every activity of yours and you may make other feel comfortable.

“True strength